The subject of divorce is a complicated one, and the topic becomes even more loaded when children are introduced into the mix. Describing the concept of divorce to a child is unlikely to be easy, regardless of their age. With the curious minds of toddlers, and inquisitive nature of 7 to 10 year olds, you won’t want to start a conversation with your little ones without considering the many questions they may have beforehand. From child custody and time spent together, to misplaced guilt and blame felt by children during a separation,
PJE Solicitors are here to handle your divorce proceedings in a reassuring manner. For tailored advice from divorce lawyers, guiding you towards a fair settlement, and advice on children’s rights following a messy separation, we remain the sensible choice within Cardiff, Pontypridd, and the local vicinity.
Continue reading for just some of the common questions posed by children following a sudden divorce or lengthy separation period.
What Did I Do Wrong?
As painful as it is to see your children suffering and blaming themselves, this is a normal response, and will rarely be reflective of your parenting or the way in which you and your former partner have conducted yourselves. If your child questions what they have done wrong and blames themselves for the divorce, continually reassure them that this is not the case, and that they are loved. If they continue to blame themselves and ask why the divorce is happening, present a unified front with their Mum or Dad, and explain in age-appropriate, yet factual terms.
Will I Still See Both Mum And Dad?
One of the trickiest aspects of divorce is coming to terms with custody of children, and finding a compromise which satisfies all parties. Though we like to imagine that it will be easy to find middle-ground with our former partner, it is an unfortunate fact that many mothers or fathers like to use their child as a bargaining tool in the instance of divorce proceedings. Once a decision has been made, either amicably or via the legal route, explain to your children in a precise manner what the new arrangement will be, and if you require support during this time, visit the
‘family law’ section of our website.
How Will Everything Change?
Pretending that everything will be the same moving forwards is a bad move, as your children’s lives are likely to change a lot in the midst of a divorce. Explain the key things which are likely to change such as living arrangements and alterations to usual routines, while maintaining that yourself and Mum or Dad will be doing everything to make the transition as easy as possible for them in the meantime.
At PJE Solicitors, we understand how difficult it can be to keep up appearances in the midst of a divorce or complicated family law-related matter. This is why we are committed to making the process as easy as possible for you. Our specialist solicitors offer legal assistance and practical guidance to support you through every step of the process, updating you on areas as varied as child custody and mediation. Whatever your situation, we’ll have a professional available to assist you. Simply
contact our divorce lawyers today for an informal chat or detailed consultation.
